Transitioning from a full time city job, to working from home in the countryside, and start living a more mindful life was the best decision I’ve ever made. But was it easy?
I had this idea, that when I finished my full time job in London, I would just take it easy. I would wake up leisurely in the morning, do my yoga, take a long shower, then focus and work very productively until 3:00pm, without having all these meetings and usual office distractions, (with many coffee breaks in between of course), take the doggy out for a walk in the fields. Time wouldn’t be a worry and I would just feel happy and content with my life. All the time admiring the greenery outside our windows.
It didn’t happen exactly that way.
The truth is that we are so wired up and used to an insane pace of life, that it’s hard to transition and let go from one lifestyle to the other without the ‘ugly’ and ‘uncomfortable’ in-between period. The fear, the uncertainty of WHAT am I actually doing? The loneliness that suddenly hits you when you realise you are not in the busy ‘centre of the world’ are some of the emotions you have to go through during the transitioning period. For the first month after I left my city job, I felt absolutely lost. I had a desperate need to fall into a fast pace, multitasking and high achieving life. A need to follow a tight schedule, relentless meetings, constant interaction, and pressure as this was what I was comfortable with. On one occasion it felt like I hadn’t made the right decision and I should have kept my high paid job for a few more years. At the end of the day, sometimes you feel that ‘it’s better the devil you know’ right?
I’m a few months into my transitioning journey and realising how lucky I am. Is it easy? Hell no! It’s scary and uncomfortable, most of the time and I have to keep reminding myself why I left my 9 to 5 job. But when I dig deep, I remember how unhappy I was and why I left. For the first time in a long time, I’m fully present to my life and more mindful about everything around me. I don’t rush around like a headless chicken, I have time to think, time to plan and time to work towards on something that makes my heart sing! I mean how amazing is that?
We hear a lot about mindful living this days, but what does this mean really?
I’ve spent most of my adult life waiting or longing for something. Waiting for the right boyfriend, the right job, my dream body, the pay rise, the new home, the life-changing holiday, but I was missing out on my here and now. I was too busy thinking what my life would be if I could achieve all these things, and I wasn’t fully present in my life or with the people I cared for.
Mindfulness is about being fully present. Allowing all these thoughts but let them pass you by with no judgment. Appreciate the moment of today, forgive past hurts, dream about the future but work hard today and finally stop worrying!
In plain words, is about fully accepting yourself and living in this present moment. Don’t waste your time waiting for something but find your happiness in your life now. And this can only be achieved by fully accepting yourself, your life and your current situation.
I realised this morning that I haven’t put on make-up for the last 2 weeks. I was looking at myself in the mirror and for the first time I wasn’t judging me, I didn’t have anything bad to say about how I was looking. Instead I was focusing on how I was feeling. Free.
I’ve said it before, beauty comes from within, and when you reach this mindful state you appreciate every little moment, even your frizzy morning hair. You should feel blessed you have hair. And if you don’t have hair, you should feel blessed you have a head! Always appreciate what you have. Don’t waste time on the things you don’t have!
But how do you become more mindful?
Accept and fully love yourself. There is only one you in this whole universe and we have come to this earth for a very short period of time. What a waste it is to spend our very valuable time waiting for something or being unhappy?
- Take care of you. Exercise, rest and eat well. All these things are so important and we spend days, months or years without paying attention to our needs.
- Gradually practise to take moments during your day to be present. To notice what is happening in your life right now, without judging or expecting anything.
- Take a walk in the park and don’t look at your phone, instead lift your head up and look at the sky and take a moment there. Listen to the sounds around you. Start noticing things.
- Meditate if you can. Meditation helps clear your mind and focus on this present moment.
- Do some Yoga, it’s a great exercise for mindfulness.
- Surround yourself with people that spark joy in your heart and laugh out loud as much as you can
- Free yourself from possessions that serve you nothing.
I have a long way to go with my transitioning journey and I’m working really hard towards it, but I choose to fully accept me and be present in my life right now.
What is your thoughts about living mindfully?
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